Redefining Mental Suffering

Redefining Mental Suffering

When most people think about mental illness, they look directly to the area of the brain.  While this may be intuitive, the problem is that the brain is only the tip of the iceberg of where the mental suffering is coming from.  Treating only the mind is analogous to only attending to the smoke without putting out the fire.  The brain alone is not where the core etiology of mental suffering is located.

The reality is that over one’s lifetime, the mind builds up so many subconscious defense mechanisms that it becomes difficult to go beyond the mind and into the being (body) of the person where the true healing begins.

Let’s take heartbreak for example.  Everyone has had their heart broken before and the sensations that one experiences throughout the area of the heart may be perceived as unpleasant.  In order to avoid this unfamiliar sensation again, the mind devises a thinking strategy that may go something like “I will remain strong and never experience this feeling again.”  While this may appear to work in the short term, in the long run, it ends up not working because although the person may be able to carry on with many additional relationships, the ability to feel begins to diminish.  The mind is now locked in a thinking pattern that instructs us to never feel that heartbreak again.

So how do we begin to heal the problem?  It is all too easy to attribute these problems to genetics or chemical imbalance or diet problems.  While it is true that modifying the chemicals in our brain will have a physiologic effect, the root of the problem is never addressed and that is the fear of feeling.  While the fear of feeling heartache may have been conscious the first time to occurs, it has now become complete subconscious.   The healing can only begin when the person begins to allow themselves to feel once again.  The benefits are two-fold.  The first is that by bringing awareness back to the region of the heart, the subconscious fear of feeling again begins to mitigate.  The second benefit is that it begins to break the lifetime buildup of cyclical thought processes that instruct us not to feel again.

Another example is holding on to thoughts of anger or guilt.  Our body cannot tell the difference between a real external threat versus an internal thought based threat unless we are conscious of the difference.  If a person goes to war and witnesses and experiences atrocities, it is true that there are real external threats present at the time of the war.  However, it is when the person returns home that the war is stored as thoughts in the mind and even in a quiet room,  the person remains in a state of a threat as if they were still in battle.  They have carried the war home in their mind. 

The body begins to react to these persistent thoughts also known as flashbacks, which keeps the body in a state of known as fight or flight.  The entire body is under a state of alert with heightened adrenaline and sympathetic overload.  This is both a hormonal and nervous system response to a true emergency.

Again, the only way to truly begin to heal is to not treat the mind with chemical pills, but rather to allow the person to begin to let go of these thoughts. This can be accomplished only after the person becomes conscious that holding onto and reacting to thoughts of anger will only bring about their own further suffering.  Each time a disturbing thought of war arises, again they may begin to bring attention to the area of their body that is reacting to this thought thereby removing the subconscious fear of feeling again and breaking the repetitive thinking process that the body is continuing to react to as if there was a real threat.

As one can see, mental suffering is not just of the mind.  For true healing to occur, the subconscious fears must be brought to light and the person must allow themselves to bring awareness to the body once again. 

“Feeling is healing”

By | January 6th, 2018|Categories: Blog|

Start Your Day With a 10-minute Session of Awareness

Before you get out of bed in the morning, start your day with a 10-minute session of awareness.  The general idea is to take inventory of yourself.  Are there places within your body that are under tension?  Do you feel stimulated.? Does your head hurt?  Are you hungry?  Are you aware of any particular thoughts that are causing tension in your body?  Is your body reacting to the thoughts in your mind as if a real external threat were present?

Each area of the body that seems to be in need of attention, is where we bring our attention and mindfully experience the sensations involved where the body stress may be accumulating.  As our attention is guided toward each of these places, we direct nice deep healing breaths to each one of these places. 

If we continue to ignore our body’s natural intelligence, slowly but surely tension is held within these places of the body that may eventually evolve to give us physical health problems such as hypertension, heart disease, GI problems, stroke, autoimmune disease to name a few.

In order to heal ourselves, we must go beyond our thinking mind and into our being. 

With an approach that addresses both the mind and the being, true long lasting healing begins to occur.

By | January 2nd, 2018|Categories: Blog|

Know not Knowing

You may think you know who you are, but that would be a thought of yourself.

You may think you know your universe, but that would be a thought of your universe.

You and your universe, as well as thoughts of yourself and your universe, are all waves of the same ocean.

Fully realize that your thinking mind cannot know either yourself or your universe.

Become aware without knowing and realize you were never separate from your universe.

This separation was only in your mind.


By | December 24th, 2017|Categories: Blog|

No Need for Near Death Experience to Realize Love


It is when we come close to the end of our own lives, or we see the life of someone else get taken that we realize how precious life is.

We see how trivial some of our day to day problems are.

We see how close we are to one another.

We see why there is no reason to hate one another.

There is only a need to have love and compassion.

We must first have love and compassion for ourselves.

We must take care of ourselves, honor ourselves

We cannot rely on others to fill us with love that resides within.

We cannot expect someone else to gives us love since they may be looking to us to fill the same void.

When we love ourselves, we love another

When we are kind to ourselves, we are kind to others.

We do not have to wait for a near death experience to come to this realization.

We can do this now.

Now is the time to love.

By | October 11th, 2017|Categories: Blog|

Where is Love?


Where is love?

You search, and yet you do not find

You check online

You check outside

You ask around

But you do not know

You think to yourself, where is love

You read books

You watch films

But still, you cannot find

But then you look in the one place that was always right under your breast

Your heart

You listen and discover

All along it was inside of you

You were always the love you were looking for

By | October 3rd, 2017|Categories: Blog|

Do you know who you are?


Do you know who you are?

It’s not who you think you are.

You are not composed of thoughts.

Thoughts do not contain you.

You were taught those words by others who think they are their thoughts.

Others who think they are the acquired collection of words stored in their minds’.

So who are you?

There are no words to describe you.

There are no boundaries to contain you.

You are before all words.

You are beyond all boundaries.

You are eternal.

You are whole

You are not separate from all you see, feel, hear, touch, taste and smell

You are not separate from what is inside and outside of you

All separations are an illusion of your mind

Your mind that thinks it is a “self” separate from its “universe”

There is no self

There is no universe

Nothing that can be named

For naming simply separates what can never be separated

You are simply this eternal present moment that nothing is separate from.


By | October 3rd, 2017|Categories: Blog|

The mind cannot grasp what the heart knows

The death of the thought based separate self

i.e. That a separate conceptual “self” can figure out a conceptual “Universe”
The birth of the heart based universal non separate self
i.e.  self = universe
The thoughts “We” or “Universe” cannot recreate the essence of reality.
All reality is beyond the reductive nature of thought.
All reality unfolds in this present moment.
By | April 20th, 2017|Categories: Blog|

Your realization is NOW

It is the thinking mind’s rejection or analysis of what is unfolding right now in this present moment that is creating suffering.

The formed thought based conceptual self dies when the mind drops all its acquired lifetime stories.

The true formless self then emerges as a pure unbiased field of awareness free of any preconceived notion.

This true self is inseparable from the universe it is woven into and therefore is not a self at all.

This is our true nature.

Free of thought.

Our original innocent childlike state.

Your realization is dependent on the acceptance of the “isness” of NOW.

This present moment is all we ever have.

We are presence.

We are NOW.

By | March 25th, 2017|Categories: Blog|

Mind dualism vs Heart nondualism

The mind creates a conceptual you and a conceptual reality creating a separation (Dualism)

The heart unites you and reality into a oneness (Nondualism)

By | March 24th, 2017|Categories: Blog|

Who are we?

We are not the voice we hear

We are the observer of the voice

We are the existence asking the question

By | February 20th, 2017|Categories: Blog|

Evolutionary Sense – The Voice in Our Head is not Us

Think about it

Thoughts evolved to help us survive, not to bring about our own suffering

We are not who we think we are

We are beings that think




By | January 29th, 2017|Categories: Blog|

The Cure for Mental Illness – Dropping the Mental Story of Oneself

The cure for any labelled psychiatric state is knowing oneself beyond thought.
We are not who we think we are (egoic self), but rather, we have taken form from the universe itself (nondual nonself).
Throughout our life, our minds have acquired thoughts and beliefs
This is the story we tell ourselves
But, beyond the story is our truth
We were “born of the universe”.
We learn this from our heart
We can connect with our heart by quieting our thinking mind.
We can heal ourselves by forgiving and feeling within the being of ourselves outside of our thinking mind.
Our best medicine comes from within.
By | January 27th, 2017|Categories: Blog|